_ RO 12:1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual act of worship. 2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.1TH 5:23 May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. After going through the session on the how the media shapes our thinking 2 Fridays ago and then the sanctification week this week, I believe God is putting some things together for me. I believe an important part of sanctification for me will be in the area of the mind - my thoughts, my perception, my worldview. God pointed out to me that I need to undo all the incorrect views and thoughts in my mind that had been shaped by prolonged exposure to the media over the years.The scary part of it is that they have become such a subconscious part of me, thanks to constant bombardment from what I see and hear on the media that I am sometimes oblivious to how much some of my thinking and values are shaped by the pattern of the world.
Let me elaborate on the 2 areas that were revealed to me:
(I) Definition of SuccessI know in my mind that my worth and in significance is in God alone, and in Him I lack nothing. Unfortunately in my heart and in my subconscious mind I think I still yearn for "success" in the way that the world defines it. Watch TV and you know how it has shaped how many of us define "success" - successful carreers at a young age, cash in abundance to splurge on private property, a flashy car, a "beauty pageant" type of girlfriend/wife, jetsetting lifestyle, regular holidays in exotic locations.
Why do I say I am still not free from these worldly stuff? Let me confess a few things:
(1) I still seriously mind the size of my paycheck; I mind even more how much my increment is going to be. (though honestly, as I have admitted before, God has already graciously blessed me with more than sufficient for me and the family.)
(2) I am still conscious of my "title" and job grade, relative to my peers at work.
(3) I still wish I can have a cool silver Mazda RX8 to call my own.
(4) I yearn for regular holidays in exotic places.
(5) I am concerned about whether I will ever have enough for a comfortable retirement.
I think the list goes on....
Popular media from sources such as "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" are not helping our generation either. My peers are so convinced by those "truths" that their thoughts are preoccupied with how to amass wealth. Others earn less than me but yet are stretching their financial means to own those "badges" of success such as expensive condos and cars.
I thank God that at least my values are redeemed and I am not tempted into similar excesses, but I will be first to admit that I am far from being totally redeemed or sanctified. May the Lord continue to sanctify me through and through and help to to inculcate in my character "godliness with contentment that is great gain"!
(II) A woman's beauty
No thanks to the media, I have been unconsciously placing disproportionate amount of importance and priority on a woman's looks and appearance. I may not have articulated it, but the truth is that in my perception of women, my focus has shifted somewhat from looking out more for the inner beauty of the character to more of just her looks and figure. I need to repent because God has made it so clear to me that it is WRONG.
If I do not change, I believe that it will only be a matter of time before the same values creep into how I see my own wife, my daughter and those around me. And that will be so damaging!
Once the guy's mind is tuned to what the world is showing...soon he imposes those standards to the women around him, and it is a matter of time before most women are led to believe that THOSE are the standards that they must meet to be "beautiful". Wouldn't that be so sad? Consider the damage that may potentially cause in a woman's self-esteem, as well as her mental and physical health?
What really jolted me recently was the awareness that someone I know personally - mid thirties, slim and attractive, is spending tens of thousands on crash diets, botox and liposuction! Reason: She cannot stand the sight of herself in the mirror, that she is not young and pretty enough or slim enough in the right places.
So sad....even more so when I realised that I am also responsible, because I have bought into what the media and the countless slimming and beauty ads are selling to us.
God, please forgive me! Help to renew and sanctify my mind, that my definition of a woman's beauty will not be what the world says it is, but rather what You have said in Your Word:
1Pet 3:3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4 Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. PR 31:30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised._